On the other end of the spectrum, some men entrenched in porn want to act out their fantasies in the real world. Your husband’s sexual tastes have changed. But turn on an Internet device with unlimited pages of novelty, and boom, the plumbing works.” 3. “When preparing for real sex, the pornified brain fails to get its dopamine surge and the signal to the penis is too weak to achieve erection. In the book The Porn Circuit, Sam Black writes, It is common for addicts to blame their partners for their inability to perform. They have conditioned their mind to be turned on only by self-sex and porn images. While there are several medical reasons for ED, for the porn addict the problem is not in the organ, but in the brain. It isn’t uncommon for porn addicts to experience porn-induced erectile dysfunction.
Your otherwise healthy husband is unable maintain an erection during sex. Not only is their sexual energy tapped, but they begin to prefer the “safe” realm of fantasy over the “risky” real world of intimacy. They become desensitized to other forms of pleasure-even sexual intercourse-preferring the buzz they get from porn. While many addicts want a high frequency of sex (see #3), as the addiction escalates, they begin to lose interest in their partner.
